1. Surrounded by people who can’t see you, don’t believe in you, and project false images onto you, you follow their advice or guidance which is tinted with unclear motives, and you are disempowered.
2. Wounded, you decide to not give a fuck what other people think. Insults and accusations are hurled at you as you depart, but you consciously decide to not care. Inadvertently, this also hardens you against positive interactions with others, but in your own space you discover your boundaries, and can effectively discern who means what they say and who will give you space lovingly, versus who is just telling you what they think you want to hear so that they can get what they want out of you.
3. Eventually, the crust softens. You have, in the process of your isolation and self-healing, discovered and reconnected with your own power and value. Invitations to connect are more appealing – the bar has been raised on multiple levels, real and subtle, energetic. Others are valuing you more. Your empathy has expanded. When you meet others and are effectively met, you are more present and full of gratitude. Your boundaries are strong, but your heart is soft.
4. You spent a good amount of time not receiving any external input about yourself. But now you’ve been cultivating healthy relationships. You discover that you can provide loving input and receive loving input because what you create together affects you both. Advice and guidance is exchanged. Autonomy is respected; ultimatums are not delivered. The motives are clear and you are both empowered. You’re back at step 1, in a way, but it spiraled.
Thinking of the Aries and Libra polarity, people with the nodes in Aries/Libra or the 1st/7th houses. The balance between independent and individual will, solitary identity (Aries) and cooperation, diplomacy and relational identity (Libra).
(Image: Edoardo Flores)